phones can be awkward

This is a story of how important good phone manners can be when it comes to dating...

    Background: I used to attend some ward activities with my girlfriend since we went to different singles wards. I became acquainted with a few people she knew from church. As in, I recognized them and that's about it. She began to tell me about a certain someone who began to talk about me and questioning her for information about me. I didn't think too much would come from it, because she knew we would not hit it off. And a girl always trusts her friend's opinion. He begged for my number from her and she refused, like a good friend does. We ended up at the same activity at one point and had an awkward first official introduction. I knew how he was interested in me and yet, he said nothing. As in Hi, I'm so and so-Hi I'm Bonnie....silence.....Ok, well I gotta go! (me)That was the end of that...so I thought


     3 weeks later: At the store one night and get a phone call from a number I don't know. I answer it and "Hi, I'm so and so, we met briefly and FHE the other night." Me-Oh....hi. (thinking oh crap and how did he get my number)  Him-Well I was calling because I had an extra ticket to the fill in the blank sporting event tomorrow night and Bill suggested I ask you. Can you go? Me-um, nope sure can't, sorry. Him-Oh...well...guess I'll keep trying. Bye! Me-????

    Is it just me or is it funny that he put the idea to ask me out on someone else. ("Bill" is a mutual friend.) And when I said I couldn't go, he made it seem like I was just a fill in and he didn't really care if I went or not. This was also our first real conversation FYI. Did it really seem like he was interested? Awkward. But I thought that would be the end of it since he didn't make an effort to suggest another date or time. Also, still don't know how he got my number.


    3 days ago- message via TEXT. Hi Bonnie, this is so and so. I realize this is an unconventional way of asking you out, but I was wondering if you would like to go to the fill in the blank activity tomorrow night? I looked at it, laughed, thought about how to respond no, then thought some more. Do you really think it's polite to ask a girl on a date via text? Someone I don't even know? So, I did what anyone should do, and I didn't respond. Evil, I know. But better he learn from me now than later on.

    Lesson #1: If you're truly interested in taking a girl out, don't blame it on someone else

    Lesson #2: Don't ask someone out via text

    Lesson #3: Don't ask anyone, let alone a MOM out with only 1 day's notice

    Lesson #4: Don't get a girl's number through someone else. If you didn't ask her, she doesn't want you to have it. (still not sure how he got my number...)