call me sally

since my d-vorce, i've had no interest in making new girlfriends. (so sorry, that was harsh). because of certain events pre and post, i steer away from females of a certain age and situation (aka single, twenties). my current girlfriends are girls i've known for years, whom i trust and love-or moms from church, whom i trust and love. i find myself a million times more comfortable starting and maintaining friendships with those of the opposite sex. this is for many reasons. most of them obvious. less drama (mostly), less competition, void fillers, they can fix things, they can carry heavy stuff, unemotional (is that a word?), the ying to my yang. this has put me in an almost tricky situation the past several years of only having single guy friends. the only single girlfriends i've made have come and left me for husbands. rude. i watched a movie a few months ago (with a couple of my closest opposites{sex}) that i thought was my life story. give or take a few details. i chuckled through half the scenes comparing it to many events and conversations i've had with my "opposite" best friends. times that i have come to love and need. yet somehow it always becomes complicated, doesn't it? why the good times must end, i don't know. but i can't always be picking out christmas trees, rugs or clothes with my opposites. or going to parties and family events together-thus starting a whirlwind of confusion. and of course, judging their own dates a little too harshly. i mean, those are all fun, but i suppose it can't last too long and be productive in finding a mate.at least thats what others tell me. but they've obvi never been divorced and single for 5 years and trying to maintain their sanity in anyway possible. i look back on the past several years with my opposites fondly. it's been more of a roller coaster than i would've imagined, but i've enjoyed the ride... and the free meals. maybe one of these days, one of those opposites will stick for the long run. and yes, i might have teared up at the end of the movie. what else is new.